is not just for men and is not always "harmless"!?

I read on here all the time that women don't care their men look at because it means no harm towards them, its just them "fantasizing", because all men need to. Its a guy thing, right? My husband has hurt me by watching online even though he knows I hated it. To be spiteful, I went searching for as well. It had become an addiction. If any man feels the way I felt towards , I would step back & reess the situation. I fantasized about the men I looked at constantly. During I envisioned different guys having with me. I looked at my husband with disgust because his body didn't match up to those "men". I started looking at online clified ads & cheated on my husband twice. All this happened without him ever knowing. What turned out to be spiteful, became fun, then became damaging to my marriage. I have since gone to therapy. My husband and I have gotten rid of the and are now rebuilding our relationship.